BDSM Gear for Beginners

Bondage can be delicate, sensuous, and romantic, or kinky and immensely exhilarating. The mere act of restraining your partner provides new sensual experiences as well as an increased sense of trust and connection.

However, when you’re just starting out in the kinky BDSM world, it can be tough to know where to start. Do you buy a bunch of gear right away or take it slow? What kind of gear do you need, and what’s just for fun?

 Well, PROVOCATEUR is your go-to BDSM shop and this guide will answer all these questions. We’ll be taking a look at some of the most alluring bondage gear and accessories used in BDSM play so you can get started on your kinky adventures. 

 So, whether you want to start small with a bedroom bondage kit or go all out and replicate a playroom straight from Fifty Shades of Grey, we are here to help.

Do you prefer an even more personal advice? Please don’t hesitate to contact us directly by email or phone. As a couple we are happy to help you out with tips and advice on all you kinky bondage questions from both our perspectives 🙂

Why Buy BDSM Gear?

Well, let’s start with the basics. What is BDSM? BDSM is an acronym that stands for Bondage, Discipline, Sadism, and Masochism. It refers to a wide range of activities and sexual practices that involve role-playing, dominance and submission, restraint, and impact play styles, all of which can be enjoyed by consenting adults.

And let’s make one thing very clear: BDSM  is fun! It adds an extra layer of thrilling excitement to your sex life. 

BDSM gear is designed to enhance these activities and make them more fun, exciting and safe. In addition, they can also help you:

• Get into the right headspace
• Feel more confident in your abilities.
• Explore your kinks and fantasies in a safe, controlled environment.
• It can help you learn more about yourself and your partners.

The great thing about bondage gear is that it can be used for both roleplay and foreplay. So if you’re just starting out, it’s a great way to ease your way into the world of BDSM. 

Now, if you’re new to all this, it can be a little daunting at first, but don’t worry – we’ll explain everything as we go along.

Essential Bondage Gear

Ball Gags

A gag is intended to evoke a sensation of submission and intimately render your slave silent in seconds. They are intricately designed to silence the wearer’s voice without making breathing difficult. 

It is often strapped around or over the head and has a ball (or other shaped object) that rests inside the wearer’s lips and teeth. 

Since your sub is unable to speak, it needs to find other ways to communicate, and their partner must learn to better comprehend their needs while playing. They are comfortable to wear and easy to bite down on, delivering alluring vulnerability while offering optimum pleasure without any pain. A bit gag gives more space to breeth and bite then a gag ball. Which one has your preference?

But when it comes to gags, quality does matter a lot to keep things safe, sound and healthy! All the gags mouthpieces in the PROVOCATEUR collection are made from medical grade silicone that has no hazordous taste or smell, is fully body-safe and feel soft and comfortable in your mouth and don’t damage your teeth. They are also easy to use and clean. You simply wash it in clean water and dry it before using it again. 

BDSM Collars

BDSM collars are used to signify ownership and submission. They are also worn for elegance and seduction. They allow your imagination to run wild and surrender to the optimum pleasure of unleashing the master in you. They are availble in many different materials, but a leather submissive collar is suited for real play and while still being comfortable to wear.

Many collars have a frontal O-ring that allows leads, harnesses, and bondage equipment to be attached to them. They can be paired with a leash or handcuffs for an inexorably immersive intertwined BDSM experience.

BDSM Leash

 A BDSM leash is perfect for those who want to take their play up a notch. It adds an extra level of domination and submission by giving the dominant partner control over the submissive partner.

A leash is a great way to lead your partner around and show them who’s in charge. It also adds an element of suspense and anticipation to your play sessions. You can also use a BDSM collar and leash together to form a bondage combination that can be used to control your submissive by moving them with the lead. 

Leather Harnesses 

Leather harnesses are a dangerous mix of sensuality, sophistication, and drama for both men and women. Everything melts with the stunning silhouette and an unbreakable spell cast from the. Leather harnesses are the most seductive lingerie harness you can have in your kinky warderobe. 

They’re incredibly versatile and can be used for a variety of different activities, including bondage, spanking, assisting during sex and even just wearing around as kinky lingerie or clubwear.

Handcuffs, Ankle Cuffs and other Restraints

These can be anything from a bondage belt up to soft ankle cuffs, thigh cuffs or luxurious leather handcuffs. Cuffs are a versatile and beginner-friendly way to get started in bondage play. 

Handcuffs are traditionally used to secure the wearer’s hands behind their back. Still, with some naughty imagination many other positions can be thought of. They can for example also be used to secure the wrists around an object (like the bed) to prevent the wearer from moving from the position they are placed in. Or how about some more advanced positions in which the wrist are connected to the ankles or the ankles to the thighs? You go ahead and experiment how many bondage positions you can think of!

A Blindfold

A blindfold is a great way to start experimenting with sensory deprivation and adding an extra layer of excitement to your play. When you wrap your sub’s head in a cunning bondage blindfold, you take away one of their most important senses! And best of all, many items will do. Weather you take a kitchen towel, a sheet of a piece of clothing, you are aways good to go!

The blindfold effectively blinds your beloved as you play with them and keep them in the dark, waiting, wanting, and begging for more sound, smell, taste, and especially touch. They will be surprised when you tickle, lick, spank, tease, and delight them. Everything you feel will be magnified!

To take this mesmerizing pleasure to another sensual level,  Put the ball gag in their mouth to deny them their ability to talk as well! The gag will muffle every groan, but they cannot beg for more since you will go at your own pace. 

As they are rendered defenseless, impress your lover with your ability. You’ll like how they appear merciless in wanting you more and more!

Paddles

 A Paddle is a flat implement, generally, with a handle, that is used to spank another person or oneself in the same manner as a hand. They are available in a varieties that create diverse feelings by either amplifying or absorbing force to make the impact harsher or gentler.

Paddles are available in many materials, but the best paddles are made of leather, which is considerably softer against the skin than wood and gives an audible ‘thwack’ that enhances both partners’ pleasure of being paddled or spanked. Spankers are frequently used in sensory play to enhance touch by stimulating nerve endings and producing an adrenaline surge in the spankee.

They can be used for light spanking or as more of a serious punishment tool. Start with something light and work your way up to something heavier if you want. With only one crack of our strong Punisher Paddle, your submissive will know who’s in command. 

Our slapper is very suited for both novice as advance spankers.

Kinky Lingerie

This might seem like an odd choice for beginners, but trust us, it’s a great place to start. Sexy leather lingerie is a great option for bondage because it makes you feel hot and confident. It also provides easy access to all the places you want to be tied up. However, it’s important to make sure your lingerie is comfortable enough to wear for long periods of time.

Safety Tips When Using BDSM Gear

Safety is always the top priority when it comes to BDSM play. 

When you’re just starting out with BDSM gear, it’s important to take safety precautions and understand the risks. Here are some quick safety tips to keep in mind:

•  Make sure you understand how to use the gear properly and safely. Read up on tutorials and ask questions before using them.
• Ensure that all your gear is made of safe and body-safe materials and free from defects. 
•  Start slow, and don’t push yourself or your partner beyond comfort levels. Take breaks periodically during your BDSM scene if necessary.
• Communicate with your partner before, during, and after your scene about any concerns you have for safety or pleasure. 
• Have a safe word—a signal agreed upon between partners that helps them stop their activities if anything makes them feel uncomfortable or unsafe—and you could even have another third person present who can help look out for safety issues as well.

 We Give You The Power To Add top-notch BDSM Gear To Your Kinky Play

At Provocateur we empower our clients to indulge in an immense ream of hypnotizing pleasure. From the Rough to the Romantic, we offer a variety of different types of bondage gear for you to explore. We have everything you need to get started in the world of bondage, from restraints and whips to gags.

Not sure where to start? Well, we are experts are here to help and answer every question you might have!  We also allow our customers to create their intimate, customized gear. We guarantee that your gear is made of the materials you like, is exactly suited to you, and features optimal comfort.

Instead of settling for less than you deserve, you can acquire exactly what you desire and deserve. Whether you’re a bondage beginner or a seasoned pro, we have the perfect gear for you. Come and explore in our BDSM shop today!

Time To Dive Into Immense Pleasure With Your Gear!

So, there you have it! Of course, this is just a starting point—there’s a whole world of kinky fun out there to explore. But if you’re just getting started, this should give you a good foundation to work from.

Do some research, experiment with different things, and, most importantly, communicate with your partner to figure out what you both like and HAVE LOTS OF FUN! With a little effort, you’ll be well on your way to having some of the best sex of your life.